A tantrum is what some of us learn to live with as part of
raising children, as part of our daily routine. A tantrum is not
what we rush to tell our friends about. Most of us want to forget
it ever happens, and often we think it only happens to our
children. A tantrum is a frightening entity that when not handled
delicately can grow to be a monster.
Some of us may see a tantrum as a form of disobedience or a
child out of control, and thus fail to understand the reasons
behind its existence. And when we fail to handle the tantrum
appropriately, we can end up falling into its vicious mouth and
brutal claws.
Here are the fundamental steps to understanding a
tantrum....Step by Step:
- A tantrum is a form of
discovering and establishing independence;
- A tantrum reflects the
child's feelings, not the child's behavior;
- A tantrum is not the
parent's fault;
- A tantrum belongs to
the child: the child begins the tantrum on their own, and
therefore needs to finish it on their own;
- A tantrum that is
handled right can become a tame little puppy.
In Conclusion:
We all need to remember that we have our breaking moments, our
down times, our weaknesses. We don't want to be reminded of them
all the time, we certainly don't want to be remembered just for
them. Each and every one of us experiences a tantrum much like our
children (even when our tantrums don't include throwing ourselves
on the floor), and we all want to be forgiven for our mistakes.
What you learn to do for your child, you eventually learn to do for
yourself and your loved ones.
Please try not to get intimidated in the face of your child
having a tantrum. Don't panic, or give in to your own anxiety.
Instead, keep calm, remember the points made above, and mostly:
that your child needs you, and is not having a tantrum to hurt you,
to get you, or to ruin your day!
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