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- Effective Dads teach primarily by role modeling. To be a role
mode, a Dad has to be interactive with his child, not a little,
but a lot. Are you "there" for your child?
- Do you work 60+ hours a week?
- Do you travel (overnight) more than 50 days a year?
- Do you live in a different city than your child?
- Do you spend twice as much time with your home computer ,
TV or sports than you do with your child?
- Fathers form secure attachments with their children through
active, physical "rough and tumble" play. Do you and
your child play together at least 2-3 times a week?
- Absentee Dads often claim that they make up for the time
they've missed with their children by spending "quality
time" with them. Which list do you believe builds quality
father-child relationships?
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List B |
| Going to the movies |
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Helping with homework |
| Going out to eat |
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Working on home projects |
| Going to Disneyland |
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Meeting with teacher |
| Going to Hawaii |
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Taking child to doctor |
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Disciplining |
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Talking with child about success and
defeats |
- The evidence supports the notion that fathers play an
important role in preparing their children for life outside the
comfort of the family. At times, Dad's role will trigger
conflict with Mom about rules, consequences, risk taking,,
performance expectation, children becoming self reliant and
self protective. When conflicts arise, do you automatically
"give in", assuming that the child's mother knows
best?
- Active fathers understand that the power of their role is
linked to their ability to pull their child into their world.
Do you initiate and welcome opportunities to be with your
child; to take him/her with you to work, on errands, or to join
you in doing the things you enjoy as a man?
- Children without effective fathers run a far greater risk of
getting in trouble for uncontrolled anger or aggression. When
arguments between family members occur within your home, you
are able to contain your anger (i.e., avoid name calling,
hitting, cursing)?
- Effective fathers do not portray themselves as heroes, nor do
they think of themselves as flawless. When you've over reacted
angrily, been too critical or let your child down, do you
readily admit your mistakes and apologize to your child?
Chances are you could see through this brief quiz. But if
you still answered the questions in a way which indicates that
you could be a better dad, you might be interested in learning
more about how to become a more involved father.
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